The Victim, The Rescuer, and The Persecutor: The Roles That Keep Us Stuck in the Drama Triangle

Ever catch yourself jumping in to fix everyone’s problems… then getting mad when no one changes? Or feeling powerless and wondering why life keeps happening to you? Welcome to the Drama Triangle — where the Victim, Rescuer, and Persecutor take turns running your relationships into the ground.

In this episode, I share what my own therapist pointed out to me this week (spoiler: I was deep in the rescuer role 🙃), and we unpack what Diane Zimberoff calls “the victim trap” — the cycle that keeps people stuck, resentful, and disconnected.

We’ll talk about:
• How each role secretly maintains the chaos
• Why rescuing isn’t kindness — it’s control in disguise
• How to recognize when you’re sliding into the triangle
• Concrete ways to step out and build healthier, more balanced connections

If you’ve ever felt drained from “helping,” blamed for everything, or trapped in the same emotional loops — this one’s going to hit.

Because the moment you stop rescuing, blaming, or surrendering your power… that’s the moment you actually get it back.

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