Why People Hurt Themselves: Understanding Self-Harm in BPD (A Friend’s Conversation)

Trigger warning: frank talk about self-harm and suicidal thoughts. In this fast-paced, honest episode I sit with you like a friend and a DBT therapist to explain why people with Borderline Personality Disorder engage in self-harm, how to spot the difference between coping behavior and suicidal intent, and practical, compassionate ways to help—whether you’re the person struggling or someone who loves them. Includes quick DBT tools, a safety-plan script, and clear guidance on when to reach for emergency help. (If you’re in immediate danger, call emergency services or, in the U.S., call/text 988.)The episode concludes with a reminder of the importance of compassion and understanding in addressing mental health issues.

takeaways

• Self-harm is often a misunderstood survival skill.
• Many believe self-harm is attention-seeking, which is a misconception.
• Self-harm communicates emotional pain that words cannot express.
• Offering connection and compassion is more effective than judgment.
• Grounding techniques can help manage urges to self-harm.
• DBT is an effective therapy for BPD and self-harm.
• Self-harm is a temporary coping mechanism, not a sign of being broken.
• Building a fulfilling life is essential for recovery.
• Talking about self-harm without shame can lead to change.
• Support is crucial; individuals do not have to face this alone.

👉 If you’re struggling right now: You are not alone. Please reach out for support — call or text 988 (in the U.S.), or look up your local crisis line.

Safety Plan Template: ⁠https://rachelwrites3.gumroad.com/l/telrqj⁠

Grounding Kit Cheat sheet: ⁠https://rachelwrites3.gumroad.com/l/vuwpa⁠

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This resource is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy, counseling, medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Downloading or using this material does not establish a therapist-client relationship with the creator.

If you are experiencing a mental health crisis or thinking about suicide, please call your local emergency number immediately. In the U.S., you can dial or text 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.

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